I’ll be honest with you. This job is hard in ways that don’t show up in before-and-after photos.
Most days I love what I do. I pull into a driveway, I meet a wagging tail, and I do my best to make that dog’s day a little easier. The work is real, the dogs are grateful in their own way, and the van smells like shampoo more often than not. I am not complaining.
But the animal care field has been quietly talking about something for years. The research keeps coming back the same way. Somewhere around 70% of animal care professionals — groomers, vet techs, shelter workers, trainers — experience something called compassion fatigue at some point in their careers. Some of us live with it for years before we even have a name for what we are feeling.
I want to talk about it. Not as a PSA, not as a sales pitch for a course, just as a working groomer who has been in the van long enough to know the cost of caring.
What Compassion Fatigue Actually Is
Compassion fatigue is not burnout. Burnout is when you get tired of the work. Compassion fatigue is when you get tired because of how much you care. The work has not changed. You have.
It shows up in small ways first. You start to dread the difficult dog. You scroll past the sad posts in the local lost-and-found group instead of offering to help. You get quiet on the drive home. The dogs still get beautiful grooms, but the spark that used to be there feels heavier than it used to.
I run a one-woman mobile salon out of a self-contained van. There is no coworker to vent to between appointments. There is no front desk to pass the hard case off to. When a long-time client moves away, when a senior dog’s body is failing in ways the bath cannot fix, when a regular just stops booking and you find out why a month later, I sit with that. Alone. In the van. Before I drive to the next house and put the smile back on.
That is the part of this work nobody sees.
The Math Nobody Warned Me About
When I started Vroom Grooms LLC, I knew I would be working with dogs every day. I knew there would be matted coats and the occasional nervous breakdown at the grooming table.
I did not know about the math.
Every Full Groom I do is a small, quiet act of care for a creature that did not ask to be here. The dogs do not know I am doing them a favor. They just know I smell like shampoo and my hands are warm. I am the one carrying the weight of their good day.
Multiply that by 30 to 40 dogs a week. Multiply that by 52 weeks a year. Multiply that by however many years you do this work. The weight adds up.
What I Do About It
I do not have a perfect answer. Anyone who tells you they have figured out compassion fatigue in the animal care industry is selling you something.
What I do have is a handful of things that help.
The live stream. Streaming real grooms on Twitch at DogGroomerNicole has been the single biggest thing for me. Owners used to try to stay in the van with their dogs during the groom, which was unsafe, took up the limited workspace I have, and kept me from doing my job to the full extent the dog deserved. The stream lets owners watch how their pup is handled from home, and it turned out people from all over the world wanted to tune in too. Now the van is not quiet. There is a chat full of people who love dogs as much as I do, and that is the opposite of isolation. Real grooming, real dogs, real community. We do not stage the dogs. We do not fake the results.
A routine that does not involve dogs. This sounds strange for a dog groomer to say, but my off-days have to be dog-free. I cannot recover from a week of caring for 30+ dogs by spending my Sunday at a dog park. I read. I cook. I sleep until I am done sleeping.
Saying no. I turn down dogs I am not the right fit for. I refer senior and end-of-life cases to groomers who specialize in that work. I am honest with owners when their dog’s needs are beyond what I can safely provide in a mobile setup. This is hard for me, because I want to help every dog. But saying no is how I stay able to say yes to the dogs I can.
Telling clients when I am having a hard day. Not in a dramatic way. Just, “today was a tough one.” Most of you have been so kind about it. That kindness matters more than you know.
Stay fresh and furry,
Nicole
Vroom Grooms LLC
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About the Author
Nicole is the owner and certified groomer behind Vroom Grooms LLC, a mobile dog grooming service serving Northwest Ohio. You can catch her live on Twitch at DogGroomerNicole, where she streams real grooms and talks shop about the grooming world.
This post was drafted with help from Nagini 🐍, her digital assistant, who keeps the blog running, handles the tech side of the website, and makes sure Nicole spends more time with dogs and less time wrestling with WordPress.